February 2012
34 posts
You Didn’t Thank Me For Punching You in the Face →
yourfairygodfather:
“I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told “Oh, that just means he likes you”. I never really...
“…consenting to some sexual activity with a person, or having consented to sex...”
–
Lisa Jervis - An Old Enemy in a New Outfit: How Date Rape Became Grey Rape and Why it Matters in Yes Means Yes.
(via fem-blog)
Watchgirl-farts:
A modern picture book about where babies come from thats fit for every kind of family and every kind of kid.
“True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made...”
– - Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via subconciousevolution)
oh, i loved this so much.
(via methodistcoloringbook)
“Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are...”
– (i wish i could put this on a business card and hand it out to people who make rape jokes. the flip side would say FUCK YOU)
must put this on facebook.
(via janedoe225)
The Pervocracy: Rescripting Sex →
This is the kind of sexual script we need. Not necessarily one that’s based in talking a lot (although that’s what works for me, and you do have to talk some), but one that’s based in desire and shared humanity. One that’s based not in “can I do sex to you?” but in “let’s do sex together.”
what i'd like to see more of in discussions on...
fromonesurvivortoanother:
the right to not be sexually abused based on your sexuality or gender identity
the right to not be denied housing or employment based on sexuality or gender identity (still legal in a ton of states btw)
the right to not be made homeless when you come out
the right to be equally represented (i.e., not by cis-male white gay men)
the right to health care that doesnt...
Motor City Kitty: Ways Gender-Privileged Men Can... →
meeca:
(This list will be forever in-progress. Please add on as you see fit).
Challenge sexist jokes, such as dumb blonde jokes or jokes about rape.
Avoid using words such as “bitch”, “hoe”, “slut.”
Recognize when you “zone out” when women are speaking, when you value a man’s opinion…
Students Active for Ending Rape: Database... →
safercampus:
SAFER’s Campus Accountability Project was profiled by Samantha Kimmey in Women’s eNews.
By Samantha Kimmey
WeNews correspondent
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Justice for survivors of campus rape is often weakened by administrators leery of attracting negative press. The Campus…
“Despite the massive advances in women’s equality, young women’s sexuality is...”
– Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide (via boybitch)
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The Pervocracy: What Do You Want? →
I’m not promoting selfishness here. Knowing what you want doesn’t mean always doing what you want; if you want polyamory and your partner is monogamous, or if you want to tie up your partner and they’re terrified of that, then your job is not done here. You still have to negotiate and compromise and possibly sacrifice some of your desires. But you can’t even start that...
IF YOU ARE A WOMAN, the LGBT COMMUNITES OR NATIVE... →
From One Survivor to Another: what i’d like to see... →
fromonesurvivortoanother:
what i’d like to see less of in discussions on sexual violence:
white middle class college aged frat party bullshit as if that is the only kind of rape that ever happens
overfocus on legalistic bullshit that barely helps survivors live their lives after
people who are not survivors acting as…
“Most female-specific stereotypes are based in the universal fear of an unbridled...”
– —Tammy Rae Carland, “Reflections of a Stupid Slut” (from I <3 Amy Carter)
Dear Hugo Schwyzer,
Poverty does not make girls, as you say, hypsersexualized, competitive, and promiscuous. Being poor (or being nonwhite) makes rich, white, sexist men project their own feelings about the availability...
: Safer Sex and Contraception for Trans* Guys →
artoftransliness:
A lot of us are less than well-informed about how to have safe sex and prevent pregnancy as trans* guys, partially because there isn’t a lot of information out there specifically for us.
-For oral sex involving vulvas (vulvae?), a good way to reduce the chance of STI…
a sex blog for folks who want to know more:... →
It’s no big shocker that talking about sex openly and intimately isn’t very easy. Most of the media around us doesn’t portray sexual discussion realistically or wholly: we’re shown either only the super-fantastic earthshaking stuff or Very Big Problems, not all of the shades in between that make…
“The force that allows white feminist authors to make no reference to racial...”
– bell hooks, Ain’t I A Woman, pg 138 (via butcheredmentality)
another quote that I needed to find to put in my essay - tumblr has the shittiest search feature known to existence. just saying.
(via newwavefeminism)
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The “Wearing-Down Approach” to Consent →
fuck yeah sex education: TW: Rape →
feminismduh:
Why I Will Always Side With Rape Accusers Before Knowing the “Facts”
safercampus:
Yesterday, prosecutors decided that they won’t press charges against Greg Kelly, son of police commissioner Ray Kelly. He was accused of raping a woman—I wrote about it here. I…
“Through the process of socialization we learn to be sexist, even if throughout...”
– Stop Being A Bitch! A look at Sexism in Insults | Lawsonry (via sociolab)
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Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist →
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The Pervocracy: Consent Culture →
Ways You Can Work Toward The Creation Of a Consent Culture 1. Don’t rape people. It does bear saying. And I don’t just mean “don’t put on a ski mask and jump on strangers in dark alleys” rape, either. Don’t have sex with someone who is not unambiguously, enthusiastically, and continually consenting. Don’t have sex with someone who says “I guess so” or “okay, fine” (unless they are...
“When I submit, I do it from a place of strength. I decide whether my partner is...”
– Feminist Sex Submissive? How I Reconcile My Politics With My Sex Life | Sex & Relationships | AlterNet (via a-blog-called-everything)
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Why Consent Needs to be More Than Sexy →
“When consent is seen as “sexy”, I am pleased, but when consent is taught and defended as necessary, as a birth right, I am elated.
I am affirmed. I feel like safe spaces could be a large-scale reality.”
“What we need to let ourselves do is acknowledge that sex is a big deal for some...”
– Libidos, Assumptions, and Miscommunication | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? (via sexisnottheenemy)
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: 10 reasons why I shouldn’t have had sex, but did... →
sexpositive:
Wilhemina Wang from heartbreaknympho.com has an honest collection of ten reasons she has had sex with she shouldn’t have. The list is specific to her experiences, but this is a very comparable list that people can relate to.
See the whole article here
Because I was in love with the…
“In many ways, the kink scene seems light-years ahead of other sexual communities...”
– Tracy Clarke-Flory. When Safe Words are Ignored.
Interesting article on consent in the BDSM community, and the fear of submissives to use safe words when their boundaries are crossed, and the ways in which others in the community dismiss this sexual assault.
(via sexpositive)
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!: Consent: some questions to talk about →
dangertits:
Here is the list that we brainstormed today. Stoked about working with you all!
Say you’re having some sexy times. For whatever reason, you stop being into it. What are some ways of letting your partner know?
Say you’re having some sexy times. You have the sneaking suspicion that your…
“The reality of what women, even feminists, find pleasurable is not always...”
– Feminist Porn: Sex, Consent, and Getting Off (via ceedling)
January 2012
33 posts
“Although most boys figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen,...”
– Dorian Solot, I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide. (via feministhistorian)
“CeCe McDonald, a black trans woman, has been facing 2nd degree murder charges...”
– Jessica Annabelle, Why We Should Support CeCe McDonald, Racialicious 1/27/12 (via racialicious)
Live, Laugh, Awesome: Consent is more than "Will... →
livelaughawesome:
Consent is “Do you want to have sex with me?”
Consent is “Are you comfortable with being close to me?”
Consent is “Do you feel safe when you’re with me?”
Consent is “Did anybody talk you into this?”
Consent is “I know you wanted to an hour ago, but do you still want to?”
Consent is “I know…
“Rape is biological? Bullshit. Pissing is biological. Pissing in a toilet while...”
– Holly Pervocracy of http://pervocracy.blogspot.com (via beatingthebinary)
“Sex-positive, a term that’s coming into cultural awareness, isn’t a dippy...”
– Carol Queen (via feminismduh)
keep it consensual: ask first!: a hidden battle is... →
lookarounditshappening:
In the United States, women in the military are more likely to be raped by a fellow soldier than killed by enemy fire. Over half a million women have now been assaulted in the military & the Department of Defense estimates that approximately 19,000 military…
Santorum: Pregnancy as a result of rape is "a... →
“You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to...”
– http://www.dressaday.com/2006/10/you-dont-have-to-be-pretty.html. (via feministteapot)
“Sex education should focus not just on the mechanics of heterosexual sex and how...”
– Simone Webb (Underage sex isn’t automatically a problem | Comment is free | The Guardian)
“It’s highly flawed to talk about the impact of “pornography” on young people as...”
– Pandora Blake (porn, like sex work, defies easy generalisations | Spanked, Not Silenced)
“Today, in a huge victory for women’s health, Health and Human Services Secretary...”
– Obama Administration Approves Rule That Guarantees Near-Universal Contraceptive Coverage | ThinkProgress
YAY!
(via becauseiamawoman)
Sweden keeps forced sterilization law for trans... →
lipstick-feminists:
Members of the Swedish government have announced they will not change the current law requesting transgender people to undergo sterilisation.
A majority of the Swedish Parliament is for an abolishment of the law but a small conservative party is putting a halt to the change. […]
The 1972 law being kept in force states that a person wanting their gender reconsidered...
Stop telling women how to not get raped →
“People don’t necessarily know what they want. That’s okay. Sometimes you don’t...”
– On Good Consent, Part One | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? (via sexisnottheenemy)
Clutch Magazine - Ish Just Got Real, Watch: Sh-t... →
“And then there’s the representation of aromanticism in fiction. Oh, oh wait. No,...”
– Awesome stuff by pippin.. It’s titled asexuality in fiction, but there is a really cool section on aromantics too!
FONSFAQ post — asexuality in fiction
(via fictionalaros)